Let's Talk About This

 It does not matter how different you would want to hear or describe it but one reality that will forever prevail is that sex is a sacred affair.

I have been aspiring to appreciate my sexuality better for the past few years or several, depending on how you prefer to understand five. I have managed to successfully bedevil several good people and also done the grave mistake of worshipping some very toxic ones along the way. Just like any other typical adult, tied to no particular form of statute or ordinance, I have fully embraced my libido with passion and satisfied my sexual desires with zeal. I have also gotten to understand that not everyone engages in coitus to express love and I think that is where the adversities creep in.

Sex is pleasurable, exciting and sensational. A delight that binds bodies and souls, tapping into the core of all enjoyment, when performed rightly. That is a fact that no one can argue against but, it does not end there though. There is more to it than what everyone chooses to take in. The elements one collects from single intercourse could stay in them for a lifetime and in case it escaped you, I mentioned before that sex connects not only the bodies but also, the souls.

Perhaps you would love to argue and dispute my very first remark on sex by stating that casual sex is not anything close to sacred but hey, you big bag of beans! There is nothing "casual" about sex. Smoking weed together, Netflixing, hitting it on the couch and the kitchen countertop then waking up in his polo shirt the next morning, with no attachments to go by, is not as casual as it might sound. At the end of all that enchantment and fun making, there will be something you give out and something you receive. You will leave with an identity that you never possessed before because well, sex is an exchange of energy between participants and that there, is what makes it a sacred connection.

A relationship with zero emotional attachments, no responsibilities and plenty of sex and nothing but sex sound favourable and stress-free until you begin experiencing unforeseen anxiety attacks, low self-esteem and other unfriendly energies. Sexual vibrations are not just simple banging and thumping of organs. There's more to it than just a wild chase for orgasm and pleasure. The orgasm itself is a magical manifestation of the sacred ritual. 

Sex is a powerful tool that establishes cords and connects two personalities both in the physical and the spiritual realm. The sole reason why every sane person advises against partaking in sexual intercourse with someone you do not have a preference for. Ever wondered why everyone who is the "I don't like him, we only do it for sexual benefits" type are always troubled human beings with no direction? Well, wonder no more! And also, you got to be mindful of people's intentions. Do not let them into your temple- your body is the temple- if they have no intention of nourishing or developing it to something better.

When two souls are connected during intercourse, an exchange takes place and energies are drawn in. When you engage with someone you would not want to be with and vice-versa, you tend to draw in their negative energies into you. Sexual vibrations and orgasms are powerful elements and ladies, you might want to listen to this and give it a wise thought. Every man you engage in unprotected sex with transfers their  DNA into your brain and also that of everyone else they have slept with before you. So you are probably going to have to deal with the hard topic of talking about his previous too before he bangs it. Your body is your sacred place and drawing in someone else's impurities and making it part of you is unfair and unjust to it!

It would also be smart for one to understand their sexuality and what works for them.  I am not endorsing or protesting any form of courtship but I would like to uphold the idea of filtering your partner's energy before you decide to embark on a romantic relationship with them and also, have it in mind that sex is not only a physical engagement but also emotional and spiritual.

Sex is a gift given to all living beings and is a part of our existence. Although sometimes it can be misused because it is human nature to do so, the purity of it still stands and it still possesses one of the most magical powers that fashions and gives rise to the form of life.

Wishing you safe sex. 

Photo by Dainis Graveris 

References 

https://youtu.be/lttjdrcnszQ

https://www.deccanchronicle.com/lifestyle/sex-and-relationship/270617/find-out-how-women-keep-dna-from-men-she-has-had-sex-with.html